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NEVERRWHERE IS A BEAUTIFUL HUMAN BEING WHO ALWAYS HAS A KIND WORD TO SAY. GO FOLLOW.
*blushes and flails*Eeeee thank you so much <333
My two new totally awesome, ultra-geeky shirts came today. They represent who I am so well. *sighs happily*
YOU’RE JUST GONNA HAVE TO LISTEN (x)
NO YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND I JUMPED ONTO THE FLOOR AND BURNED MY LEG
THIS WOMAN REALLY DOES CALL HERSELF ‘THE BUTTON LADY’
SHE’S BEEN GOING TO CONVENTIONS FOR LIKE 20 YEARS WEARING THIS BADGE COVERED CLOAK
AND TRIES TO GET EVERYONE INCLUDING CELEBRITIES TO ADMIRE/BUY HER BUTTONS
I THOUGHT IT MIGHT BE HER BUT LACKED VIDEO EVIDENCE AND NOW THERE IS AND LO AND BEHOLD IT IS
SPREAD THE WORD THE BUTTON LADY IS REAL AND IS COMING TO A CONVENTION NEAR YOU
*wails loudly and inarticulately at you about the botfa trailer and associated feels*
Actual conversation at work today
Some dude on the phone: Yeah hi, I don’t want to talk to you I want to talk to the girl I usually deal with who’s in charge of the 1st floor
Me: That would be me, how can I help?
Some dude on the phone: Hmmm I don’t think so. I want the one who’s always there, you don’t sound like her
Me: That’s still me, I’m in charge of the ongoing comics section. How can I help you?
Some dude on the phone: Are you a Trekkie? I know the girl who does her job best is a real Trekkie.
Me: We prefer the term Trekker, and yes I very much am. How can I help?
Some dude on the phone: I don’t think you are, actually…wait now I know you, no I definitely don’t want to speak with you, I meant the pretty one.
Some arsehole who apparently thinks I can’t do my job and isn’t a real Trek fan and that I’m ugly: *hangs up*
Me: WTF WAS THAT
I’m not crying you’re crying *sob*
Since everyone is doing it…The selfie meme!
- In an LA diner, waiting for my milkshake. BRING ME THE MILKSHAKES.
- Acting! As Julia in I, Claudius. I bloody love that series and this was so much fun.
- Yes, I totally worked for Star Trek: The Tour. And went from tour guide seller to customer service manager/head office liaison in like a day because I was literally the only one on the entire staff who knew anything about Star Trek. And boy, do I know about Star Trek. :)
- With my advance reader copy of The Graveyard Book! I read it six months before it was officially released, it’s okay to be jealous. ;-) (Also I just really like this photo. I actually feel cute here. :)
- Me and lazytechsupport <3
- All the other photos are rather old, although I still look the same…so here’s a recent one with me and Spike :3
It was actually really difficult to find pictures of myself without celebrities/authors etc in them, because that’s usually the only time I allow myself to be (willingly) photographed, but I didn’t want to look like I was showing off. I’m aware I’m making the same face in most of these, because I hate my mouth and the way I look when I smile - which is silly, because if you know me in person you’ll see I’m always grinning expressively, not just a small smirky smile…although I do enjoying smirking as well. Heh. :)
Anyway HELLO YES THIS IS ME how are you :D
Let’s just get a couple of things straight.
- Not all women who participate in BDSM are submissives
- Not all women who participate in BDSM have male partners
- Submissives in healthy BDSM relationships give ongoing enthusiastic consent, set limits and participate in negotiations, use safe words and are provided with after care
If you criticise BDSM as ‘anti-feminist’ based on the assumption that all subs are abused, you don’t know what you’re talking about.
If you criticise BDSM as ‘anti-feminist’ based on the assumption that all female participants in BDSM are straight subs, you might want to reconsider how feminist your beliefs really are.
The stupid social bias that “submissive women are weak” had a big impact on me. I first discovered BDSM through fanfiction and then read up on it. Since I see myself as a strong, independent woman of course I thought: No way you’re a sub! Of course you’re a dom.
Then why do I identify more with the sub’s perspective in fanfiction? Why do I find what is happening to subs in BDSM pornography more arousing than what is happening to doms?
Conclusion: Oh, I have submissive tendencies.
Thanks to fanfiction (it might even have been kryptaria and bootsnblossoms's work), I realized how much courage and strength it takes to need. It's not about being “beneath” your partner - there needs to be a lot of trust. The subs offer their submission and the dom gets the power but they have to honour that responsibility and not abuse it.
So yes, wsswatson is absolutely right.
bootsnblossoms and kryptaria are a godsend to fic - I know I can always trust them to be well informed and respectful, adhere to Risk Aware Consensual Kink, and prove doms are not inherently aggressive and forceful, and subs are not inherently weak willed and passive. They’ve never trigged me and I’ve loved everything they’ve written, both together and apart. If you want to see D/s done right, read these two :)
It’s all a matter of paying attention, being awake in the present moment, and not expecting a huge payoff. The magic in this world seems to work in whispers and small kindnesses.
I want to be the gomez to your morticia - let me follow you around in a sharp suit treating you like the queen you are and let me be sustained on french endearments and super sweet and kinky fun times x
you might not be an artist but i'd love to see the masterpiece you could make of me - my skin is your canvas and i want to see you there when we're apart x
You have permission to flirt with me anonymously. Starting now.
There’s another giant masterlist of comic download links circulating tumblr and it’s just so frustrating
Yes, of course you should read more comics - READ ALL THE COMICS - but for godsakes support the industry by actually buying them. Smaller titles especially need your help, don’t just download Ms Marvel and Lumberjanes because you heard they were cool, please prove to all the doubters, naysayers and haters that representation matters and can be profitable too. That’s the only way they’ll succeed, and the only way we’ll get diversity and see longevity for the characters we love.
Buy print copies from your local comic shop, digitally from Comixology, from an online shop like midtowncomics.com, just please support the creators and the work they do by buying them. And if you have any questions, don’t hesitate to ask!
This has been a PSA from your friendly neighbourhood comic shop employee :)
Everyday sexism example #25687
While I was typing on the computer at work today one of our regular customers - who is overly friendly anyway and constantly invading my personal space - grabbed my hand, and before I could stop him pulled me towards him and gave it a wet, sloppy kiss.
Because that’s completely appropriate behaviour in a professional setting, am I right?